One thing I have been struggling with is staying positive during the hard times. You know those moments where you feel like you are doing everything you should be doing yet the universe is throwing one thing after another at you?!
You start to wonder what you did to deserve all of this pain and stress, the way out becomes blurred and hazy and you start to fear that this is a permanent scenario in your life. This is usually when the past starts flooding in creating more doubt and fear. If you’re anything like me than shortly afterwards, it becomes a natural habit focusing on all of the things not going as planned in your life. Shortly after that comes the swirling feeling in the mind when it is time to make a decision, fear has you trapped not wanting to make the wrong choice.
Here is the thing though, something I keep coming across in different books, articles, podcasts and hell even Instagram reels is: Not making a choice, is making a choice and that is the choice that is usually the wrong one. It took me a few times of reading and hearing that to make it really click, because my mind would still start swirling; “But how do I know it is the right choice?” “Man I am tired of making the wrong choice” and then it would usually end with, “Well if I don’t make a decision then nothing can go wrong.”
Man was I wrong there! By not making a decision, I let in feelings of despair, self-doubt and fear and they were starting to show up more often. I was so worried about failing at yet another thing or another decision I make ending up in more hard times that I literally started to get anxiety when I had to. I am starting to realize that a lot of those words that swirled through my mind were the words of others which I allowed to become my own.
What if I try something new or make a decision and fail or something doesn’t go as planned? Will I ever know if I don’t try? Absolutely not, it will just remain swirling around my mind as a what if! People do not have to like or understand what you are doing with your life. As long as you are not causing mental or physical harm to yourself or others then LIVE YOUR LIFE! If people have an issue with that then they are not meant to be in your life!
It is easy to be happy and positive when things are going right, the real trick is how to stay positive when everything feels like it is going wrong. That is my next inner goddess goal! I know a huge step in my inner growth will be when I can take a step back in moments of chaos and breathe, allowing the universe to clear out the old to make room for the new. You can not build a steady foundation on the debris of the past. Therefore, the storms come through and knock down parts in our lives that do not align with our purpose. We have to feel the feelings that are coming up at this time, by feeling them we learn from them and also learn to control them. If we feel an emotion so strongly that we can not control it when it surfaces, that means we have ignored it for too long and it is demanding to be heard by YOU!
Stay lifted everyone and remember, this storm shall pass as well!
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